20 March 2008

Pay It forward


Have you ever seen that commercial where a girl witnesses a guy do a good deed and then passes it on until it goes full circle? I always thought that was a nice idea, but rarely have witnessed it myself. Until this week!

Monday: While driving down Barrington I hit a busy intersection during rush hour traffic. There was an old lady crossing the street escorted arm in arm by a young man. She was smiling big and he was chatting her up. They came to the corner and he helped her step up onto the curb, said good bye, and he darted back across the street! He'd actually walked an old lady across the street simply to be kind!

Wednesday: While driving down Neilson Parkway I was stopped by a running pedestrian (they have the right of way without signals). I watched him get to the curb and then he immediately bent down to pick up an old food container someone had left behind and he dumped it into the trash. Then, he continued on his run.

Thursday: I was blocked in by a pick-up truck filled to the brim with oranges. The driver was in the back handing a construction worker fistfuls of them, and then he got into his truck and moved out of my way. As I drove down the street I noticed that every single construction worker on the block was now feasting on an orange. Laboring hard for the wealthy they enjoyed a simple but refreshing snack provided by the driver. I'm not sure if it was exactly a free gift, but I'd like to see it as kind anyways.

In writing stories, you learn that key themes are hammered home to your audience in 3's. If you watch any "good" movie you'll see it. Part of that is because the human brain is supposed to really recognize it as important by the third time, and so I'll take this theme not as an isolated incident, nor a coincidence, but a true testimony that people in this world still do stop to do kind things for strangers.

An appropriate one for this Easter Week.

Dating Series Part 4 & 5

The folks over at Bounless discuss next Moving Towards Clarity in the Dating Series.
And then move to Being Proactive (shiver!!!!) where they offer lots of "suggestions" on what that looks like.

Me? Well, I line up most with the following point in the second article, because it was the only part I was comfortable "doing" amidst all the other "stuff" that comes along with being single and "getting out there." And although the drive and the voice behind my prayers have changed slightly since I have entered into a dating relationship, the meat remains.

.... both men and women need to be proactive in praying for their future spouses. ....this one is difficult [if we] I don't see automatic results so it feels useless. But it's obviously not. The Bible tells us to present our requests to God, and relationships should be no different. Pray for God to prepare you and your spouse for one another. Ask Him to give you wisdom and to bring that right guy/girl along.

Even if being proactive in one situation doesn't result in marrying the guy/girl of your dreams, it doesn't mean it wasn't worth it. If we approach things with the right attitude, God can and does use the relationships in our lives to make us more like Himself. - (Denise Morris)

To me, presenting my requests to the Lord is the only thing that makes everything else worth the effort in the wait.

17 March 2008

Dating Series Part 3

Here's what they are saying about singles of the opposite sex "Hanging Out".

Good points... but they fail to address something extremely important here, and that is the issue that one or both parties sometimes "hang out" with a member of the opposite sex to simply fill a void. There isn't any romantic interest, nor do they expect it to bloom into that-- but they get something out of this kind of friendship that same-sex friendships simply cannot offer.

If He is a Christian and She is a Christian, and He doesn't "like her, like her" and she "isn't interested in him in that way" what's the harm in hanging out? Is there actually a danger there?

Would you want to punch me in the face if I told you that I thought that there was?